Question: I need 8 hours of sleep a night to be functional, 9 to 9.5 to get at my best. I haven’t gotten this amount of sleep on a remotely consistent basis since I moved in with my partner 3 years ago. She’s a night owl and is able to sleep in to get the sleep she needs, but even when I’m not working sleeping late only makes me feel depressed.
We have a small apartment and can’t afford a bigger one, so I don’t have my own bedroom, which would make the situation much more bearable. Unless she matches her sleep schedule to my own, or can tolerate me going to bed at 9pm (which so far she hasn’t), I think that our relationship is going to have to end.I’ve discovered that sleep is more important to some people than others–and it’s paramount to my own functioning.